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5 Reasons Men Should Try Watching Feminist Porn

For those who haven't heard, feminist porn is a thing, and it's hot AF. While most consumers of this revolutionary form of adult media are queer, trans and female-identified, cisgender hetero dudes could definitely learn a thing or two by joining the party. I realize the dream of men watching feminist porn on a large scale may never come to fruition, but humor me for a second and use your imagination.

Although not all mainstream porn is unfeminist, there are a lot of differences in the types of people you'll see and the scenarios you'll encounter in feminist porn. And although the kind of porn you watch doesn't necessarily impact your sexing — humans do have free will after all — it can influence how you perceive sex and the opposite sex.

According to a recent study by the Journal of the American Medical Association Psychiatry, the unrealistic scenarios in porn can actually desensitize men to sex, making it harder for them to become aroused when they encounter real women in the bedroom. There's nothing wrong with a crazy fantasy, but perhaps even watching a crazy fantasy with more real but equally sexy women involved might be enough to help these guys show more interest in getting busy IRL. Here are five reasons why men should watch feminist porn:

1. It'll Turn Their Girlfriends On

Empowering, consent-friendly porn is sexy as hell. Enough said.

2. It's More Likely To Remind Them Of Sex IRL

I know, to some guys this is the worst idea ever. But why not give it a try? If the real thing is better than porn, and feminist porn looks more like the real thing, then what have you got to lose?

3. They Can Feel Ethically Turned

A lot of guys feel guilty about consuming porn, particularly the kind featuring abuse or anything that would get you arrested in the 50 states. If you watch feminist porn, you can get off guilt-free while supporting independent directors who craft stories that both titillate and empower.

4. They Can Learn To Get Off On Consent

Classic mainstream porn tropes include non-consensual (or at least, vaguely consensual) acts, which is a bit problematic when it comes to the real world. Men are perfectly allowed to have dangerous fantasies, but it might help their realities if they had steamy visuals of enthusiastic consent, too.

5. They Can See More Diverse Types Of People Getting It On

Sure mainstream porn features a plethora of shapes and colors, but these people are usually fetishized for their race, age, disability or body type instead of being portrayed as regular folks who are DTF. Feminist porn removes the stigma from different abilities, aesthetics, gender identities and sexual orientations, thereby allowing sex to be viewed as the infinitely varied act that it is in the real world.

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