When it comes to romance, the media tends to wear rose-colored glasses. In other words, TV and movies usually show the mushy, sweet side of relationships. And while love can be all of the amazing adjectives that exist, that doesn't mean there aren't downsides too. In her August cover story for Marie Claire, Amy Schumer shares what it's like to fall in love — and nope, it's not all puppies and rainbows. Her description is not only refreshing, but real. It may even make you breathe a sigh of relief if you have a similar mindset. She told the magazine,
"Being in love is the scariest thing in the world. You want to f*cking cry and scream. I can't handle it. Every time we say good-bye, I think, This will have been a nice last week together. Or I tell myself nothing is real and he's going to leave me and tell me he never loved me. I feel so bad for him. How exhausting it must be dating me."
In some ways, celebrities make love look easy — red carpets, tropical getaways, and adorable selfies. So I appreciate that Schumer points out that things aren't always as picture-perfect as they seem. While I'm not condoning being in unhealthy relationships or ones where you constantly second-guess yourself, having thoughts of doubt occasionally is just part of being human. This is especially true early on. For instance, haven't you ever thought a relationship was almost too good to be true? So good that you then got nervous that the feeling couldn't possibly last? (No, just me?) Giving your heart to someone can be a rewarding albeit scary experience, as Schumer points out. Overall her summary is on-point and relatable.
Besides those seemingly self-deprecating remarks, Schumer's relationship with Ben Hanisch sounds like something solid. After all, she does imply that she is in love with him — and that in itself is a beautiful thing. She told Marie Claire,
"I feel like Ben is the first guy who's really been my boyfriend. There are guys who, if they heard me say that, would want to punch me in the face, but yeah, it's the truth."
Honestly, it's great to hear that Hanisch is unlike any guy she's dated before. It just further emphasizes how their relationship is a meaningful one. If I had to guess, it's not crying-screaming feelings on a daily basis. There are probably positive words that belong in the description too. But since she's been so open in the past about everything from bodily functions to body image to one-night stands, it makes sense that she didn't hold back the not-so-pretty details when talking about love.
As usual, Schumer says the stuff that most of us are thinking, but tend to bite our tongues about. It's great the comedian isn't afraid of embracing her feelings — the good and the bad.
