When you're setting out to buy your first sex toy, it can be daunting. Whether that fear is steeped in embarrassment (although you should never feel shame about wanting to feel pleasure!) or the fact that there are so many sex toys from which to choose that it can border on stressful, there's a good chance that there will be a lot of feelings involved when you're a beginner in the world of sex toys. Anyone who's bought a sex toy before has been there. But those of us who tackled those concerns know our lives are better for it.
"An important part of a grown-ass woman’s mindset is understanding her needs and taking responsibility for making sure they’re met," Dr. Emily Morse, host of the Sex with Emilypodcast, tells Bustle. In other words, it's an empowering opportunity to take charge of your sex life.
But, because where to start might be what's standing in the way of a beginner and their first sex toy, bullet vibrators are the way to go. Far less overwhelming than dildos or phallic-shaped vibrators, bullet vibes are small enough to sit in the palm of your hand, making them tiny and portable, but still intense enough to stimulate the clitoris straight to orgasm. To this day, some of my most favorite vibrators are the my bullet vibes.