There's a good chance that if your friend has recently become a new mom, your friendship has shifted. That's why it's so important that you show your support for your friend's motherhood — even if you're a long way off or have no interest in being a mom yourself. It can be through a little gift, a quick phone call, or even just a sweet text to send a first-time mom on Mother's Day to let you know you're thinking of her.
When your friend becomes a mom, it can be a really weird sensation. The person you've been messy with, gotten drunk with, maybe even traveled the world or lived with suddenly has a little, tiny bundle of responsibility. It's totally natural to find it a little bit of a rocky transition — even though you're so proud of them and happy for them, it's such a big change that it may take a while to get used to.
If your friend is about to celebrate their first Mother's Day as a new parent, taking the time to send a quick congrats is a great way to show that you are definitely OK with the fact that they never come to brunch anymore so now brunch is just you watching Netflix and getting mimosa-drunk in your PJs. It's fine. Really. But seriously, just taking a moment and sending a funny message (or a heartfelt one if you're someone who, you know, can process your emotions), can be a really sweet gesture — especially to a new mom who might still be feeling pretty overwhelmed. Here's what you can say to help them welcome in their first Mother's Day.
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This Motivational Penguin
I use this motivational penguin in any and all situations and I would highly recommend that you do the same. There is no situation this little penguin can't handle.
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"You Made It Through This Year!! Only 17 More To Go!"
Just a reminder that they haven't had a rest for a year and that they will NEVER HAVE A REST AGAIN.
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"You're The Strongest Woman I Know"
Moms are amazing and you might not always let your friend know that — just take a minute and let them hear it.
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"I LOVE YOU AND HOPE YOU'RE SLEEPING! HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!"
There is no greater gift to a new mom than sleep — so hopefully she's getting some today. A little acknowledgement of the fact that she hasn't been able to rest in 12 months is probably a welcome one.
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"Happy Mother's Day To The Sexiest Woman To Rock Mom Jeans!"
Besides Tina Fey, of course. Just a reminder that you're watching their mom-ameter to see how mom-like they can become.
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"Thank You For Showing Me That Even Idiots Like Us Can Be Great Moms"
If this is a friend who you've had a lot of adventures and exploits with, it can be nice to give a nod to the fact that you used to be hot messes together. Who knows, maybe you still are, but they're setting an example for the future.
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"You Are A Total Inspiration. Happy Mother's Day!"
Sometimes, you just want to keep it heartfelt.
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"Thank You For Being The Best Grownup I Know"
Sometimes, when your friend becomes a mom it can feel like they fast-forward into being a grownup while you're still feeling like a kid. Acknowledging that that happened — and it that it's OK — can be a really good move.
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"Happy Mother's Day! I Miss You But I'm So Proud Of You!"
One thing that can make things difficult is not admitting that things have changed. You can not see your friend for a while and still have a strong friendship — they'll be there on the other side.
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"Happy Mother's Day! Thanks For Having The Only Child I Can Stand!"
If you're not a kid person, you still probably love the hell out of your friend's kid — it's OK to let them know that.
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"My Vagina Is For Recreational Use Only But I'm Glad Yours Wasn't"
Even if you're never going to have kids, you can be happy they did.
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"Happy Mother's Day To The Coolest Mom I Know"
If this GIF doesn't get used than I don't really know why you're even bothering.
Celebrating Mother's Day when you actually have friends who are moms can be a weird feeling — but why not embrace it? You don't have to give them a gift or go over-the-top, but a little text can go a long way.
