Join me in breathing a sigh of relief. Whether it’s a first draft of a writing assignment or a new task, women especially can put too much pressure on themselves to be perfect right off the bat.

“Don’t compare yourself to other people who have been doing the thing longer, who have practiced and are better,” Romolini writes.

Likewise, “Don’t pretend the reasonable person critiquing your work is wrong and awful and your substandard work is up to snuff because believing this soothes your ego.” Accept feedback and apply it to your next effort, so you get good the second or third time.

That sound you hear is all the introverts of the world groaning at the prospect of a room full of strangers and acquaintances with whom one must converse. Romolini gives us all permission to just be honest and weird and our true selves. Her trick: engage with the human, be curious and ask questions. “When in doubt, say what you’re thinking but are afraid to say because you think it will be too dumb, remembering this basic truth about small talk: nothing is too dumb,” she writes.

“The number one thing I see negatively impacting talented women is that they get in their own way," Romolini writes. "They distract themselves with drama or psych themselves out or over examine situations to a debilitating degree.” My mom, who has frequently being my sounding board for whatever paranoid or stressed scenarios I invent, would concur. She has told me more than once to stop overthinking it. My defense is that overthinking and imagining the worst case scenario is great is you’re writing fiction and can channel your flair for dramatic into the story, but otherwise it’s probably not the best use of your energy. Assume the best and focus on doing quality work instead.

Romolini has a lot to say on this — an entire chapter is devoted to it. “The idea of getting ‘mentored’ has become formalized and fetishized to a degree that, on top of all the other crap we put on young women there’s now pressure for mentorship to look a certain way, for you to find a kindly fairy godmother/Glinda the Good Witch figure who will dole out bippity-boppity-boo sage advice and cheer for you on the sidelines as you run the marathon of your career.” This is all total BS, according to Romolini. YES, there is much to learn from older and wiser women. YES, you should develop relationships with people in your field who share your passion for work. But forget about it looking and being a certain formal way. “You are seeking advice and clarity and support; you need to be open to getting that from a number of places, over time.”

This isn’t to be a buzzkill at the office party or happy hour, it’s to prevent you from embarrassing moments — talking too loudly, stumbling, telling your coworker you like like them, giving unsolicited feedback to the CEO —and avoiding that next day regret of wondering what you said, and to whom.

Romolini breaks down why you should really watching your boozing at work: “What you’re trying to avoid is self-destruction and creating perception about yourself among your coworkers and managers that is not true to who you really are.”

Romolini has a theory about why so many young women appear entitled or clingy or clueless at work: “They are afraid to own their ambition and communicate it clearly, out loud.”

It’s not necessarily women’s fault, but the world's: women are taught that it’s unfeminine to be hungry, competitive, or ambitious. "This sets us up for internal conflict and confusion, which leads to convoluted requests and clumsy communication that can be off-putting to busy people in charge," she writes.

Romolini breaks down how to own your ambition, articulate it and achieve it: be honest about what you want, evaluate your position, make plans and enlist your boss. "Respectfully own this, and you'll be fine," she advises.