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This Sex Act Is More Popular Than Ever

by Kristine Fellizar
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It looks like more and more people are adding kink to their sex lives. According to a new survey of over 4,500 people, global sex toy retailer Lovehoney found that kinky sex practices are more popular than ever before. Lovehoney recently conducted a survey looking into the sexual habits of men and women across the world. A pretty awesome find was how many people are experimenting and enjoying some of the more kinkier acts from spanking and biting to blindfolds and bondage. “We were happily surprised to see this new data,” Richard Longhurst, Co-Founder, Lovehoney said in a release. “One of the factors we think has contributed to the mainstreaming of kink is the hugely popular Fifty Shades trilogy by E L James."

He wouldn't be wrong. Kink has become more popular over the years. Another recent study of 400,000 OkCupid users found that over 70 percent of people say they're into some kind of kink. The number of users who say they're into bondage spiked in 2015 when the first Fifty Shades movie came out, and again in 2017 with Fifty Shades Darker. Overall, BDSM was found to be a bigger turn-on today than ever before and 75 percent of men and 62 percent of women even say they enjoy having rough sex. A 2016 study published in The Journal of Sex Research even found that nearly 50 percent of adults have "unconventional" sex fantasies and desires, so it's clear we're exploring and opening up about kink a lot more common than ever before

“There are many people, more than you think, who are not vanilla,” Sex Expert Dr. Logan Levkoff tells Bustle. “We’re not all supposed to experience our sexuality the same way… and we’re understanding that more than ever. You don’t even know what your best friend or neighbor are doing unless you’re with them… you have no idea what others are into sexually.”

If kink is something you're interested in, the first step is discussing it with your partner. Even bringing up the most popular kinky sex acts — which ones interest you and what your boundaries are — could even be a good jumping point to a larger conversation around kink. So here are the acts men and women enjoy the most.

1

Spanking

The survey found that more than 70 percent of women and 61 percent of men love getting spanked during sex. It ranked as the number one kinky sex act for both men and women.

2

Nipple Play

Both men and women also agree that nipple play is a great way to get a little more adventurous in bed. According to the survey, 60.8 percent of men and 58 percent of women say they regularly engage in nipple play.

3

Tying Each Other Up

This one seems to be a winner for women more than men. Women rank "tying each other up" higher on their list than men with 57 percent saying they enjoy it. But 55 percent of men say they do as well.

4

Blindfolds

Men rank "blindfolds" as the third most popular kink they enjoy. While it falls to fifth place with women, 55 percent still say they like it.

5

Biting

About 55 percent of women and 44 percent of men say they enjoy biting during sex.

Remember that being kinky in bed is nothing to be ashamed about and introducing it also doesn't have to mean anything too rough if you don't want it to. It's all about what you and your partner are comfortable with. And after talking with your partner, you may find that even a small bite here and there could amp up your sex life in the best way.