Relationships
7 Sex Positions That Are Anything But Boring
Tired of the same old, same old?
Spicing up your sex life can seem like a daunting task. Sometimes it means trying costumes, techy toys, and increasingly kinkier scenarios — and that stuff can definitely be a lot of fun. But other times, mixing it up just means trying out a new sex position.
No matter how big or how small the change, doing something new can keep your sex life from becoming boring. Because boring sex — you know, the kind where you're zoning out and thinking about what to eat for lunch tomorrow — means you're not engaging, connecting with your partner, or having fun.
According to Dr. Sherry A. Ross, a women's health expert and author of She-ology, your state of mind is the most important factor when it comes to spicing up your sex life. "It's what makes all the parts come together in what can — and should — be a satisfying experience,” she tells Bustle.
If you want to keep your mind engaged and prevent yourself from mentally drifting off mid-hookup, trying a new sex position that you really have to focus on is a great start. It’ll help you feel present, connected, and anything but bored. Here are seven sex positions to try tonight.
1Crab Walk
How To Do It:
For this one, start with a quick stretch. Then, have your partner move into a crab position — yup, just like gym class — as you do the same and scurry over toward them. You can stay in that position or sit down and raise your legs for “advanced crab.”
Why It's Not Boring:
It's such an unusual position. Plus, with a view like that, it's basically impossible to be bored.
2Doggy With Vibrator
How To Do It:
It's traditional doggy style, but you can try getting your favorite toy involved to mix things up. You can be in control of it or, depending on the angle, hand it over to your partner to use while you just enjoy.
Why It's Not Boring:
Doggy style is already a really intense position with great G-spot stimulation, and adding a vibrator just means you can get all of the intensity... everywhere.
3Bouncing Reverse Cowgirl
How To Do It:
Once your partner lies on their back, face away from them, straddle their hips, and lower down. Remain on your knees with your hands on their legs if you like, or shift your legs forward while leaning back on your hands. From there, bounce up and down.
Why It's Not Boring:
It gives you more room to play around than regular cowgirl, and it also lets you be in control. Nothing boring about that!
4Lotus
How To Do It:
You may be looking at this position and thinking "WTF!?" but it's easier than it looks. Start in cowgirl and — bracing yourself against your partner — slowly lower yourself down. You can lay between their legs or, if that's too much of a stretch, put a pillow on top of them.
Why It's Not Boring:
I mean, it's not a position that you see every day. You get to relax back and enjoy an unusual angle and still have great access for clit play.
5Three-Legged Dog
How To Do It:
Facing your partner, hike one leg over their hip while you guide them inside of you. Props can help with this position to get the alignment right — and don't be shy with the lube. If you feel shaky, try it near a wall or by the bed for your first time or two.
Why It's Not Boring:
You're having sex standing up while balancing on one leg. The acrobatics of it all will be fun.
6Sideways Straddle
How To Do It:
While your partner lies down, face away from them and straddle their bottom leg. Slowly lower down onto them and then bump and grind away.
Why It's Not Boring:
It's not the kind of position you'll accidentally slip into, so it's definitely new and different. They get a great view, you get to control the pace, and you both get a really exciting change.
7Weak In The Knees
How To Do It:
Your partner will lie on their back while you sit on their face. Think of a knee on each side of their head. You can take turns controlling the pressure and the alignment, add a sex toy, do whatever feels great. Just make sure you both get a turn.
Why It's Not Boring:
It's intense, intimate, and totally sexy.
Source:
Dr. Sherry A. Ross, women's health expert, author of She-ology
Additional reporting by Carolyn Steber
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