Only one fourth of women consistently orgasm through intercourse alone, but “alone” is the operative word. Intercourse plus a toy is far more realistic. But using a sex toy during intercourse can feel awkward, especially in positions where you and your partner are squished close together. There’s not always a lot of space! Fortunately, there are a number of sex toys that won’t get between you (even if it technically is, in fact, between you).
One caveat here: If you want to whip out your Hitachi Magic Wand during sex and you can figure out a way to make it work, go for it. Your partner shouldn’t have any problem with you wanting the extra stimulation. "More often than not, the real issue is that the partner feels left out," Alicia Sinclair, sex educator and CEO of b-Vibe and Le Wand, told Bustle. "Their ego demands that they must give their partner an orgasm in order to be a good lover. But truly, orgasm is the responsibility of the person experiencing it and not the responsibility of their mate."
But while there's nothing wrong with bringing a big vibrator into your bed, it can get a bit bulky. So, just for the sake of physical convenience, here are some sex toys that won’t get in the way, literally and figuratively.
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Eva
Eva, $95, Dame Products
Dame Products created Eva specifically to make intercourse more pleasurable for vulva owners. Its wings fit around your labia, so it stays in place without anyone using their hands, and its vibrations help you get clitoral stimulation during any sexual activity.
2
Sync
We-Vibe’s Sync couples’ vibrator looks like it may not fit into your vagina in addition to a penis or dildo, but it's surprisingly flexible. With two heads that vibrate on the clitoris and G-spot, both partners can feel the vibrations, which means the product enhances sex for everyone.
3
B-Vibe Novice Plug
Novice Plug, $130, B-Vibe
It's not just about clitoral stimulation: Anal stimulation can also add a ton of pleasure to sex. And if you're facing each other, there's no way an anal toy can get between you and your partner.
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Fin
Fin, $75, Dame Products
Dame’s second product, Fin, fits right over you or your partner’s finger, so you can do everything as you normally would, just with a motor attached to your hand. It’s great for stimulation on the clitoris or anywhere else that could use some buzzing.
5
Mimic
Mimic, $125, Clandestine Devices
Small but powerful, Clandestine Device’s Mimic has many points and edges to provide different sensations. It also fits easily in you or your partner's hand.
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Couple's Enhancer Ring
Couple's Enhancer Ring, $22, Adam and Eve
Cock rings are easy: They fit right on the penis, so you don't even have to think about them (except to be grateful for the clitoral stimulation).
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Lily 2
Lily 2, $139, LELO
Aside from its small, unobtrusive design, this vibrator has an added bonus: It's scented, which means you and your partner can enjoy a sensual scent without lighting candles.
Remember, there's no shame in taking a toy into the bedroom. Sex with a toy and sex with your partner are not mutually exclusive.
