When you're deciding whether you're ready to be in a relationship, you need to make sure that you're doing it for the right reasons. Part of it is how you're feeling about yourself — you're not going to be a healthy partner if you're not in a good place. But part of the issue is whether you have the right motivations for being in a relationship. Because, really, it should be about liking that person and wanting them to enhance your life — and yet people get into relationship for all sorts of reasons.
Firstly, you don't have to get into a relationship at all. For some people, it's not the right option. "I think that some people are meant to be single," psychologist Nikki Martinez tells Bustle. "They are confident, they love their lives, they love the ability to have no deep-rooted responsibilities that would keep them from doing things at the drop of a hat." But even if you are someone who wants to be in a relationship, you still need to be sure that you're getting into the right one, rather than getting into one just to cover something up or avoid something you don't want to deal with. It should be a positive force, not a coping mechanism.
So here are the wrong reasons to get into a relationship, because being lonely just isn't good enough: