One of the hardest parts about dealing with a breakup is having to adjust to the fact that someone who’s been a constant fixture in your life for some time isn’t going to be there anymore. I know it's tough to cut someone out of your life completely. But just because you might miss them, should you stay friends with your ex?
"As a couples counselor, this issue often comes up, in particular at the beginning stages of a new relationship," Dr. Gary Brown, Los Angeles-based licensed individual and relationship therapist tells Bustle. But even if you're not entering into a new relationship, it's a question I'm sure many of us have asked ourselves before. Thankfully, new research has the answer. According to a recent study published in the journal Personal Relationships, staying friends with an ex really depends on your motivations behind it. So ask yourself this, why do you even want to?
Lead author, Rebecca Griffith of the Department of Psychology in the University of Kansas and colleagues conducted two studies on exes and friendship. The first study looked into the reasons behind why people chose to befriend their exes. The second looked into whether those reasons would lead to a positive or negative friendship outcome.
According to the studies there are four key reasons as to why people stay friends with an ex. Here's what they are as well as how likely it is to work out: