Sophia Benoit
Sophia Benoit is a columnist at Bustle who writes the sex and relationship advice series It’s A Pleasure. She also has written author profiles, product reviews, and fun pop culture pieces. In her advice column, she loves telling people to leave bad situations, to give themselves a break, and to accept that there are no easy answers. No matter what she’s writing, you can guarantee at least one bizarre metaphor and a ton of italics.
In 2021, Sophia wrote a book of essays called Well, This is Exhausting, where she overshared about her parents’ divorce, her childhood crushes, and her current exercise habits. Sophia has written about sex, dating, culture, and entertainment for GQ, The Guardian, The Cut, Men’s Health, Allure, Refinery29 and more. You can find other, less-well-edited writing of hers on her Substack newsletter Here’s The Thing or on twitter, @1followernodad. Sophia moved to Los Angeles to go to USC, where she studied communication and screenwriting; much to the chagrin of her family back in St. Louis, Sophia has lived in LA ever since.
Above all else, Sophia is a romance novel reader, a champagne enthusiast, a Fleetwood Mac obsessive, and an IBS sufferer. She loves knowing everyone’s gossip, visiting family in Italy, cooking way too much food for Bachelor viewing parties, and giving unsolicited advice to her seven siblings and innumerable best friends (and then following up with, “That’s what I would do, but you do you!”) If you ever want to get a tattoo on a whim, sit on a sunny patio, or go to a ‘70s dance night, Sophia is your girl. You can keep up with all the professional stuff at 1followernodad.com.
It's A Pleasure
Should I Tell My Boyfriend The Truth About My Exes?
We made a pact, but it's getting complicated.
TV & Movies
There’s A Reason Why You Love Doomed Romance
The madcap enthusiasm for Nobody Wants This points to a romantic trope that’s back in full force.
It's A Pleasure
My Boyfriend Doesn't Care That Our Sex Life Is Incredibly Boring
My friends say I'm overreacting. Are they right?
It's A Pleasure
Is My Situationship Really Just A Bad Texter? Or Is He Not That Into Me?
I know he sometimes just wants “me time,” but still.
It's A Pleasure
My Boyfriend & I Have Different Love Languages. Help!
It's hurting our sex life and he doesn't seem to care.
It's A Pleasure
Our Sex Life Is Terrible But We’re About To Get Married
In our two years together, I’ve orgasmed only a handful of times.
It's A Pleasure
My Girlfriend Isn't In Love With Me Anymore. How Do I Win Her Back?
She’s lost interest in me. The amazing daily sex we once had is out the window.
It's A Pleasure
How Can I Do "Friends With Benefits" Without Getting Hurt?
I’m recently single and don’t know what I’m doing.
It's A Pleasure
I'm In Love With My Best Friend's Fiancé
And cheating on my boyfriend with someone else.
A Review
I Tried A $65 "Pleasure Serum" For Stronger Orgasms
The internet has rave reviews, but I'm skeptical about the scent.
It's A Pleasure
My Boyfriend Hates My Body
I always catch him staring at other women.
It's A Pleasure
My New Boyfriend Says It’d Be Hot If I Sent Him Feet Pics. Help!
I don't want him to feel self-conscious about this, but I'm also not sure how to feel or what to do.
It's A Pleasure
I Want To Have Great Sex Forever. Am I Being Unrealistic?
It seems like sex becomes less important after a few years with the same person.
It's A Pleasure
Help, My Boyfriend Is Too Rich!
I found out his family has hundreds of millions of dollars and it’s messing with my head.
It's A Pleasure
It’s Been 5 Years & I Still Can’t Stop Thinking About My Ex-Boyfriend
He pops into my head multiple times a day. How do I let him go?
It's A Pleasure
Is It Stupid To Get Engaged After 9 Months?
My friends haven't said anything outright, but I feel like they're judging me.
It's A Pleasure
I'm Not Sure I've Ever Actually Had An Orgasm. How Can I Tell?
Sex with my ex was great but not explosive.
It's A Pleasure
I've Never Had An Orgasm. When Should I Tell People?
Am I setting myself up for failure if I tell them, or setting them up for disappointment if I don't?
It's A Pleasure
Help, My Boyfriend Isn't Interested In Having Sex Regularly Anymore
I feel painfully unwanted.
It's A Pleasure
In Bed, Is Bigger Really Better?
I'm worried about my ability to satisfy someone.
