Sophia Benoit
Sophia Benoit is a columnist at Bustle who writes the sex and relationship advice series It’s A Pleasure. She also has written author profiles, product reviews, and fun pop culture pieces. In her advice column, she loves telling people to leave bad situations, to give themselves a break, and to accept that there are no easy answers. No matter what she’s writing, you can guarantee at least one bizarre metaphor and a ton of italics.
In 2021, Sophia wrote a book of essays called Well, This is Exhausting, where she overshared about her parents’ divorce, her childhood crushes, and her current exercise habits. Sophia has written about sex, dating, culture, and entertainment for GQ, The Guardian, The Cut, Men’s Health, Allure, Refinery29 and more. You can find other, less-well-edited writing of hers on her Substack newsletter Here’s The Thing or on twitter, @1followernodad. Sophia moved to Los Angeles to go to USC, where she studied communication and screenwriting; much to the chagrin of her family back in St. Louis, Sophia has lived in LA ever since.
Above all else, Sophia is a romance novel reader, a champagne enthusiast, a Fleetwood Mac obsessive, and an IBS sufferer. She loves knowing everyone’s gossip, visiting family in Italy, cooking way too much food for Bachelor viewing parties, and giving unsolicited advice to her seven siblings and innumerable best friends (and then following up with, “That’s what I would do, but you do you!”) If you ever want to get a tattoo on a whim, sit on a sunny patio, or go to a ‘70s dance night, Sophia is your girl. You can keep up with all the professional stuff at 1followernodad.com.
It's A Pleasure
I Want To Have Great Sex Forever. Am I Being Unrealistic?
It seems like sex becomes less important after a few years with the same person.
It's A Pleasure
Help, My Boyfriend Is Too Rich!
I found out his family has hundreds of millions of dollars and it’s messing with my head.
It's A Pleasure
It’s Been 5 Years & I Still Can’t Stop Thinking About My Ex-Boyfriend
He pops into my head multiple times a day. How do I let him go?
It's A Pleasure
Is It Stupid To Get Engaged After 9 Months?
My friends haven't said anything outright, but I feel like they're judging me.
It's A Pleasure
I'm Not Sure I've Ever Actually Had An Orgasm. How Can I Tell?
Sex with my ex was great but not explosive.
It's A Pleasure
I've Never Had An Orgasm. When Should I Tell People?
Am I setting myself up for failure if I tell them, or setting them up for disappointment if I don't?
It's A Pleasure
Help, My Boyfriend Isn't Interested In Having Sex Regularly Anymore
I feel painfully unwanted.
It's A Pleasure
In Bed, Is Bigger Really Better?
I'm worried about my ability to satisfy someone.
It's A Pleasure
My Boyfriend Said He'd Propose "Soon," But That Was A Year Ago
I think it could happen on my birthday, though I'm afraid I'll be crushed if it doesn't.
It's A Pleasure
Why Is Sex With My Girlfriend Worse Now That We’re Officially Dating?
When we were just having casual sex, it was awesome.
'Tis The Season
Let’s Microdose The Suburbs
Take a breather. Step outside the city limits.
It's A Pleasure
I'm Tall, He's Short, & I Can't Get Over Our Height Difference
Is it possible to change who I'm attracted to?
It's A Pleasure
My Boyfriend & My Friends Don't Get Along. Do I Have To Choose Between Them?
They've said I only do stuff with my boyfriend, which is maybe why they don’t like him.
It's A Pleasure
My Boyfriend Won't Shut Up About His Sex Life With His Ex
They’re still best friends.
It's A Pleasure
I've Tried Every Dating Strategy Out There & I'm Still Single
How can I keep trusting my instincts?
It's A Pleasure
I'm Married & Can't Stop Crushing On All My Friends
The infatuation is getting out of control.
Friendship Reboot
The Joy Of The B-List Friend
Not everyone needs to be your bestie.
It's A Pleasure
He Acts Like My Boyfriend But Won't Call It A Relationship
He also compared me to his ex in bed...
It's A Pleasure
Our Sex Life Is Great, But I Still Don't Feel Connected To My Boyfriend
I want to stop relying on sex as a shortcut to intimacy.
It's A Pleasure
My Boyfriend Straight-Up Ghosted Me After A Year Of Dating
I'm worried I won't be able to trust anyone ever again.
