The process of falling in love can be a powerful, life-changing thing. In those early days of romance, you may act differently, think differently, and sometimes even dress or talk differently. But once you mix in a few societal expectations, there are actually a few differences in how a man falls in love — including what goes on in his brain.
“Societal norms definitely can play a role in how men experience or express falling in love, compared to women, based on what is socially accepted,” Dr. Holly Schiff, Psy.D., a licensed clinical psychologist, tells Bustle. And it’s interesting to consider things from this social and psychological standpoint, especially if you’re dating and trying to figure out why men think and act the way they do.
As an example, “falling in love can be different for men in terms of their ability to share with their friends,” Schiff says. “Women are often quick to share their emotions and attachment to a new partner, whereas men may be made fun of or given a harder time if they share that they are falling in love.”
That certainly isn’t true for everyone, and it’s important to consider how it might be different for those who don’t identify as a straight, cis male. But for some folks, these pressures do play a big part in what it’s like for a man to fall in love. Read on below for more info on what falling in love does to the brain, as well as a few psychology facts about guys in love.
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